Life and Career Coaching For Men Aged 35 to 65
Do you have two lives: the life you live, and the unlived life within you?
Men can have it tough in midlife. That’s where I come in. I work with men from many different industries and professions. They’re usually managers, directors or business owners. Many are creatives, introverts and leaders.
But what all the men have in common is that despite their impressive career achievements, they feel burned out, depressed, stuck, trapped, imprisoned, lost, directionless, alone or feel like they’re having a midlife crisis. What’s worse, they don’t know how to get out of their situation.
Some men are stewing in their jobs dreading the thought of being there for the next 20-30 years. Some men can’t take a step forward because they’re debilitated by fear of making the wrong choice. Some have achieved all their life and career goals but now they’re left thinking what do I do now? Other men want a career change, to slow down or to plan for part-time work in retirement but they don’t know what else to do.
If any of this sounds like you too, you’ve come to the right bloke. Here’s a quick flavour for what life coaching and career coaching will give you.
Life Coaching
Life coaching will give you a sounding board and an external third party outlet to talk to. By opening up, talking things through, getting a second opinion or a fresh perspective you’ll feel like you’re not bottling things up, you’ve freed up breathing space and a weight has been lifted.
From this foundation, we make forward progress. We will get you unstuck, resolve your problems, get you thinking the right way, get you to change gears, and give you new goals, aims and direction in life.
Career Coaching
Career coaching will give you a road map to: plan an exit strategy, take a career break, take a sidestep, try something new, find your next thing, build something on the side, make a career change, reinvent your career or phase out work towards retirement.
These pathways will unlock unrealised potential, locate the unlived life and tap new wellsprings of meaning and purpose, so you’ll wake up every morning, do something hands-on people-focused that matters and feel like you make a difference in the world.
So if you’re between 35-65, and it’s life coaching or career coaching you’re after, you’ve come to the right bloke.
Give me a buzz for a free, no obligation intro call
P. 0427 390 970
I’m your man if you agree with any of these statements:
Career and Work
You’re bored, demotivated, mentally checked out or disengaged
Your job is killing your soul
You don’t get on with your boss
Your morals, values or ethics no longer align with management
You don’t feel valued, appreciated or respected
You stay in the job just for the money or “compromise your integrity for a pay check”
You’ve “hit your breaking point” and say to yourself, “I’ve had enough!”
You have a successful professional career—yet you feel “empty” “soulless” “hollow” “vacant” or “dead” inside
You’ve been made redundant or a redundancy is on it’s way and you’re wondering “what do I do next?”
You regret missed opportunities where you could have reached your potential and see colleagues move ahead of you who did take those opportunities
You fear you’re not heading in the right direction, there’s no meaning or purpose in what you do or you’re stuck at a crossroads
Life and Lifestyle
You feel “trapped” “stuck” “imprisoned” “powerless” and can’t see a way out
You dread life’s monotony “the constant treadmill” and “the same old thing”
You have fantasies of “escaping” or “breaking free” from it all—to: buy a farm, become a writer, leave home, run away or drop out of life entirely
You think “what am I doing with my life?”
You’ve never really slowed down and can’t sit still
You’re “locked in a lifestyle” or “suffocated by your lifestyle”
You “don’t have your life under control”
You feel confused, lost or uncertain about your future
You feel like you’re “following rules” or “following a script” in life
You’ve “ticked all the boxes” and feel like you should be happy but you’re not
You feel like you’re “living someone else’s life” living up to the expectations of parents, colleagues or society
You chase “shiny objects” instead of staying true to your core goals
You feel a deep sense that “something's missing”
You fear your own death or feel that your “time is running out”
You feel disconnected, isolated, “on your own” or alone
Partner, Family and Kids
Family life is demanding. You’re the sole “breadwinner” and “provider” but feel “burdened” “trapped” “limited” or “weighed down” by financial responsibilities, obligation and constraints
You’re always working and don’t spend enough time with your partner or kids
You’re in “survival mode”
You’re either in “dad mode” or “work mode” but wonder who am I?underneath?
You’ve had a recent relationship break-up, separation, divorce or loss
You’ve separated or divorced and have limited access to your kids
Your dad was absent growing up, your dad wasn’t there as a male role model or you’re not close with your dad
You feel guilt and shame from your mum
You feel pressure and obligation to take care of your elderly parents
Physical Health and Mental Health
You’re experiencing physical health problems—back pain, pulled hamstrings, headaches, migraines, shingles, weight gain, sleep problems (insomnia), Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) or heart problems.
You’ve had a recent “health scare”
You feel exhausted, “physically shot” or burnt out
You feel like a failure—at your choice of career, as a partner or father, as a man or to admit you need help
You’re mentally frustrated, depressed or stressed
You bottle things up
You’re feeling numb, you’ve “hit rock bottom” or you could have a mental breakdown
You’re angry at everything and find yourself having a “short fuse”
You cope by smoking, vaping, drinking, over eating, using drugs or gambling
Life doesn’t have to be like this.
There is a better way.
What makes me different from all the other coaches?
Credibility
Knowledge
Service
What have you got to lose?
P. 0427 390 970
What blokes are saying
Steve, 40, Planning Manager
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Ben, 43, Executive General Manager
“I called Tom at the urging of my wife, after I ran out of excuses for working the way I was. Previously, I didn’t believe in this type of coaching and didn’t think it would change me. I am so glad that I was so wrong. Tom is amazing to work with, easy to talk to, understood what I was going through (as he’s been through it himself) and tailored the approach for my situation. I’m now feeling happy and rejuvenated in a way I didn’t know was possible. Call this bloke now!”
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Owen, 37, Development Manager
“Tom worked with me to map out a trajectory and break that down into steps and short term manageable tasks. I experienced my life through my own steps, normally given to me by career promotions or shiny corporate objects, but not necessarily through planning out long-term goals or understanding who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do. I found Tom once I had become frustrated with my career which had up until that point provided a lot of justification for my self-worth and confidence. Tom very patiently worked with me to map out who I am, who I am not and what I wanted to do. Loaded with this new roadmap and lens through which to see the world has created a sense of confidence to create my own lanes, understand what value I add and what I am possible of. I am forever grateful to Tom for his work and everything he has done for me.”
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Mark, 54, Operations Manager
“It’s not just career coaching or life coaching—it feels like a service tailored just for me. Tom is so great at cutting through the bullshit, identifying the real problems, and finding the clarity to get past them.”
Booking an Appointment & Fees
Coaching Appointments are Walk & Talk’s or online via Zoom/Telehealth
Walk & Talks
“Men don’t talk face to face, they talk shoulder to shoulder.” -Men’s Shed
Born out of COVID, walk & talks are now a staple of coaching. Combining coaching + exercise, men like walk & talks. So much so, that one bloke called it “malking.” 90% of coaching appointments are now walk & talks.
Walk & talks remove barriers to help men talk. Here’s how:
Instead of sitting face to face, making direct eye contact, which can feel like “they are under the microscope”, we’re walking together side by side, shoulder to shoulder. Looking forward, rather than directly at each other helps blokes open up.
Instead of feeling overwhelmed by opening up, it helps to get up and get moving. The natural rhythm of walking calms blokes down which one bloke said “helps me get to the gold.”
Instead of being in a room, which can feel like being “stuck inside these four walls”, walking is literally moving forward. This helps blokes get “unstuck” and feel like they are moving forward with their issues.
Instead of wearing the usual work gear – “their suits of armour” – they can drop the armour and turn up in sweat pants, hoodies and sneakers, which helps blokes loosen up and “be themselves.”
Instead of a plain office, they’re out in nature. Being in nature helps blokes unwind and see their lives as part of the bigger picture.
The walk & talk’s meeting location is Halcyon Days Cafe (click link for google maps) or address is: Halcyon Days Cafe, 381 Montague Street, Albert Park, 3206. If you're driving, there is plenty of 2 hr and 4 hr parking around. If you're getting the train/tram, you can take the no.12 tram from the CBD to Albert Park, 3206. The closest stop on the no.12 is Stop #132 Canterbury/Albert Road near Melbourne Sports and Aquatic Centre (MSAC). From there it's a 2 min walk to Halcyon Days Cafe. From the meeting point at Halcyon Days we do the walk & talk around Albert Park lake
Zoom/Telehealth
For international, interstate, country Victoria clients or if the weather is too bad, or anyone preferring to meet online we meet via zoom/telehealth.
Booking an Appointment
Coaching appointments are 1, 1.5 or 2 hours and are available Monday to Friday from 8am to 5pm
To book an appointment give me a call on 0427 390 970
Walk & talk appointments start from Halcyon Days Cafe, 381 Montague Street, Albert Park, 3206
Fees
Coaching fee: $225 per hour
Payment
Following an initial phone conversation and booking an appointment, I will send an invoice upfront with my banking details. The invoice is to be paid prior to the appointment
Find Out More
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About Me
I’ve been in your shoes, so I understand what you’re going through, and I know how to help.
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Coaching Model
Getting you what you want in midlife.
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Call Me
Give me a buzz to start the life you want.
